In our first year of marriage I was constantly including my amazing husband, Bruce, in everything that we did. Because we were MARRIED. In our first year of marriage I was making sure we did everything together because that is what marriage is – a bond, a partnership, and an adventure that you do together – we are a team. But, it started to feel different. It felt more like being roommates rather than partners.
And that’s from my need to control the outcome of our lives. To be frank, so much of this comes from this inner fear of everything falling apart, and that the falling apart is a results of my own failures. And now look at where it got me. My need to be the glue, to be the controlling element that made it feel like it was all together, actually created the space between the foundation and frame that held it together. A space between us.
This year has been hard. For all of us. It has challenged us in so many new ways. Especially me. And, as we close out this year, I hope we can all reflect and make necessary changes to remain healthy and happy with ourselves and with each other.
Especially ensuring that we include our husbands by not leaving the behind. ❤
It’s no surprise to those who know me that I can be, most of the time, full of joy. A lot of times I hear from past acquaintances, new strangers, and long-time friends the following words: ” I love your energy!” “You are just so happy!” “You brighten the room when you walk in.” And,…
Was. The past indicative of “be.” As of late, I have grown quite ill of this word. I am unable to utter it’s existence in a string of words to form the sentence, “My father w__ an incredible father figure.” To use it means to give it power and life to the reality that an…
Sticking up for your pride is not worth it if all you do is destroy the relationships in front of you. Am I married to my pride? No. I’m married to Bruce. We all get into arguments. It’s inevitable. Arguing is a part of marriage. The difference between a healthy marriage, and an unhealthy marriage, is how you handle these arguments.
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Hi, I’m Jennie! I’m a desperate writer always evaluating my life and the people around me. To put it simply…I love people, I love writing, and I have no idea what tomorrow holds, but I can’t wait to find out.
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